When I started my journey towards unearthing limitless potential, I realized that competition with self is the most important yet ugly, merciless, and painful. This makes you naked in your own eyes.
Most of us often use things like promotions at work, financial gain, and public acclaim as yardsticks for determining whether we’ve succeeded. It is always measured in the external world. Comparisons to friends, coworkers, and complete strangers on social media are difficult to avoid in a culture that constantly sets us against one another.
I believe this is self-defeating, as we can conveniently choose what we want to compete against. Our ugliest side reflects when we must win against ourselves by overcoming our mental and physical barriers.
When we stop comparing ourselves to others and start competing with ourselves, we start to see real growth. Taking this tack allows us to appreciate our strengths and pursue endeavors that align with our deepest beliefs and ambitions.
Imagine you have promised to quit smoking, run every morning, or meet a tight deadline. Now, you are tempted to take a puff or sleep an extra 30 minutes and not go running because it is raining outside, or you are thinking of an excuse not to meet the deadline. At this point, if you can beat these thoughts and get on to the task, you are a winner.
However, winning is brutal and unforgiving. When you win, you can enjoy, celebrate, and feel proud. But for true winners, these emotions are short-lived. You are back to zero in no time because the next win is waiting. Think about it, you overcame your mind, which was trying to decide against an intensive exercise session. You finished it successfully and feel good about closing all your fitness goals for the day. Guess what, next morning, you are back to zero.
Similarly, think about a bigger goal. You fight against all odds, accomplish it, and enjoy success. But the winning mentality will not let you live there for long, it will push you back to the starting point in pursuit of the next milestone. The horizon is pushed farther out every time.
This is what I call “Never Arrive.” The foundations of the winning mindset and the concept of never arriving are the assumptions that personal development and progress are continual processes and that there is no final destination or point of arrival in life. This idea contradicts the belief that we may attain ultimate success and pleasure by achieving specific milestones. Instead, it asserts that genuine happiness stems from understanding our limitless potential and enjoying the process of self-improvement.
Never arrive is an idea reflected in everything around us, from nature to human potential. Human nature is such that we are always longing for more.
Never-ending change and adaptation show that not even nature has reached its final form. Over time, organisms adapt to their new habitats. In the face of threats like shifting climates or the arrival of new predators, animals adapt by adopting new characteristics and ways of behaving. The leap from the Agricultural Revolution to the Industrial Age to the Internet Age is nothing short of phenomenal in terms of technological innovation. New discoveries are produced every day, expanding the bounds of possibility.
Human potential is also evolving and changing throughout time. Every day, people from many walks of life—sports, science, art, and business—accomplish things that were once thought impossible. These remarkable achievements show that the only limits on what people may do are the ones they set for themselves.
Competing and winning against self and a never arrive attitude move the emphasis from external validation to personal development. It urges us to accept that life is not a race with a finish line but a never-ending journey of self-discovery, learning, and progress.When we train ourselves to believe that we will never arrive and to compare ourselves exclusively to our previous selves, every day presents a fresh chance to improve. Motive can be found in self-improvement and the understanding that one is better today than yesterday rather than seeking validation through external successes or plaudits.
To fully accept this concept, one must greet each new day with an open spirit, a sense of humor, and a will to grow. Some examples of this attitude are contemplation, seeking out novel experiences, and a general willingness to develop oneself. If we take each day as an opportunity for growth, we are more likely to forego the temptation of comparison in favor of introspection.
Cultivate a “never arrive” mentality by always challenging yourself, creating new goals, and viewing setbacks as stepping-stones to success. Appreciation and continuous education are the keys to a good life. You can maintain a healthy lifestyle with supportive friends and experiences. Since personal growth is a never-ending process, it’s essential to regularly assess your progress and decide if a course correction is required.
Tim Grover, author of “Winning: The Unforgiving Race to Greatness,” analyzes and dissects the cognitive processes of elite performers. Grover’s work offers fundamental ideas on developing the “never arrive” and winning against self-mentality and the relentless desire to explore your limitless potential.
A winning mentality results from persistent efforts, self-control, and purposeful planning. You could find the motivation to keep developing by accepting that you will “never arrive.” If you want to succeed in life, Grover says to embrace your “dark side,” your ferocity and resolve. Successful people are those who are fully invested in something. Your inner drive may power your never-ending progress and positive outlook.
Grover believes you must be prepared to make some concessions if you want to be successful. The “never arriving” attitude involves paying the price for personal development and being prepared to sacrifice anything for the sake of achievement.
Grover stresses the need for mental fortitude. Your ability to bounce back quickly from setbacks will strengthen your will to better yourself. Grover also emphasizes being adaptable and receptive to new ideas. Successful people are always tweaking and perfecting their strategies. Keeping an open mind to new ideas and information might give you a leg up in the never-ending quest for betterment.
Rumi says, you are not a drop in the ocean; you are an ocean in a drop. We generally underestimate our own potential. I did for many years. Now, practicing the principles I outlined in this blog, I can convincingly say that we can achieve almost anything we set our eyes on with a burning desire, action, adaptability, grit, commitment, and discipline.
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